“Don’t grow up, it’s a trap.”

This phrase couldn’t be truer. Getting older is all about finding ways to deal with responsibilities. That’s why it’s a trap. Parents may tell you about saving money and to make sure you have a good job and get paid well. But how many really sit down and educate you on how to balance your expenses with your income? How many really let you know about dealing with setbacks and how to get back on track when you encounter difficulty, all while trying to keep a household running smoothly? Stress is real and if you don’t know how to deal with it, it could be your biggest downfall.

Everyone isn’t dealt an easy hand in life. Financial and emotional problems can really take their toll, separately and when coupled, and everyone has a different way of dealing with stress. I’m a comfort eater and it sickens me. To make it worse, when I am in that mode, working out is the last thing I want to do but at the same time I get mortified at the thought of gaining more weight. Weird huh? I know. I’m trying to channel all of my stress into workouts. It’s not easy but I figured the best I could do, as a small step, is go for a walk whenever I find myself slipping food wise or feeling stressed.

There are times when you just feel so overwhelmed you just want to break down and cry and it doesn’t seem like things are looking up for you. My motto for these times is to give yourself one day. One day to have a good cry, get it all out and figure out how you want to deal with it. Crying and looking for handouts or someone to take on what you’re feeling doesn’t help you or whomever you’re trying to drag into your misery. Find some way of dealing with your problems. I also try to write how I’m feeling to get all of my feelings out, obviously, you don’t have to literally write, you can just create an online journal. But the point is to get it all out. Angry with your neighbor? Write out what you’d really say to them and give it a day to cool down. Then contact whoever you have to, neighbor, Landlord or police, in a calm manner and deal with the situation. Getting crazy doesn’t help anyone and only makes things worse for you.

I’ve been feeling at my wits end recently. I feel like I have way more on my plate than I could handle and dealing with it all is a bit stressful but I’m trying to tackle everything that comes my way with a level head instead of panicking and running to a corner to hide. I guess I’m maturing. I feel like if it’s not for me, attack it the same time and do not let it drag on. If it’s bothering me, think and try different ways to tackle it that I can move forward in a positive note. 

If we let stress get to us, we cannot perform at our best. We cannot communicate or focus in an effective manner and we only dig a hole and bury ourselves deeper into the ground. Try different forms of communicating and dealing with issues, and never forget to consider your behavior in everything that you do. You can blame everyone around you, but look at your behavior to see how you may be contributing to it, and work on it. It takes 3 weeks to create a new habit and 3 months to lose an old one. Change begins with you and you have to know how to promote positive change within yourself before you expect and demand it from others.



It Can’t Hurt

I was in dire need of retail therapy today. We had a lovely day yesterday for our anniversary but we went to an appointment this morning that didn’t leave me in the best of moods.

When I dropped my husband off at work, I said: “gonna be a retail therapy day…” He smiled and went on his way. Little did I know how much therapy I was about to receive.

I went to Neiman Marcus to see if they had any bags I may be interested in and as I was ready to leave, this lady pops up and asks me if I’ve seen the “it” bag for Fall. I said no and followed her over to it. She was bubbly and full of life I couldn’t resist. She wasn’t the average salesperson trying to get a sale out of you. I sensed that.

Long story short – we ended up speaking for about 45mins (could be less or more but it was long) after she helped me decide on a bag that they didn’t have in the color I wanted.

We spoke about things that people who’ve known me for longer than 45mins don’t know about. Therapy. Most of all, it was the connection felt and shared over life stories. She is a little older than I am but her words weren’t maternal in nature and she brought comfort to me.

Kristen, you’ve given me that push to Let go and Let God. That the average American isn’t atheist nor a Pentecostal pushing their beliefs down my small Catholic throat, but that where there is that common understanding that He exists and you’re not alone, we can get through whatever life throws in our face.

Thank you.

Sometimes, it can’t hurt to open up to strangers. You never know what may come your way.

It’s the first day of Summer and I’m sick

For the whole week I felt like shit. I couldn’t tell you what was going on. I had a slight, tingly, sore throat and then this morning my head felt heavy and I’m a little congested. I’ve also had one of those “pains in my head” where its like a headache starting but it doesn’t exactly want to and just makes you miserable because it’s miserable itself. So I decided to go to Rite Aid after I dropped off the Mr and see what they had to say at the pharmacy. The pharmacist suggested Advil Cold and Sinus and an hour later, I’m still waiting for it to kick in. 

The weather is somewhat nice. I want to enjoy it. I want to go out and be happy. But no. I’m at home, trying to clean in spurts because I’m getting short of breath if I do too much at once. So I clean and sit. Like now, where I’m spilling my misery on to you. I also feel like a sneeze is brewing so my face looks permanently disgusted but I’m not. I just want to sneeze but I won’t. For the last two weeks I’ve been telling my husband I’m going to be sick and now something is happening. Why was I so stubborn and not taking my vitamins?!? :( 

I feel like my face looks swollen and I tried doing something with my hair, putting on makeup and a pretty dress to feel good but I’m not sure how good I’m feeling. I want to curl up in bed, and maybe I should, but I’ve put off doing things around the apartment for the whole week and now when I feel at my worse, in here looks it’s worse. I can’t ask David because I’ll have to be too specific with how I want things done and it’ll only make me want to do things myself instead of ask him so I sit here taking breaks while doing things, and he is at work.

Damn I sound miserable today. I am though. My back still hurts. My cooking hasn’t been the best this week. In here needs to be cleaned… I hope next week is better.  

How are you enjoying the first day of Summer? Don’t mind my misery. Please.