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From last week I’ve been telling myself it’s time to do some Spring cleaning. My guest bedroom is a mess as I’ve been just throwing things in there thinking “I’ll get back to it”… now I have to get to all of it. I want to start there because it’s the “worst” room. Family and friends should be visiting this year, and now is the time to sort it. This week doesn’t promise much sunshine, and as I’m free of any appointments, why not? I’m very tempted to find other things to do to get out of it but I’m going to put on my big girl pants and just get to it.
A little side note here – finding a “reasonable” seamstress has been HELL. I probably should’ve done a search for one before I went mad in the fabric store. To think I only wanted swatches and left with that much material… Anyway, I’m going to put that project on hold for now and keep searching.
Right, back to Spring cleaning. Just as my apartment needs cleaning, why not work on my life as well?! Facebook, cell address book, BBM, Twitter, everything. Why can’t I feel the same relief in my life that I feel in my living space when I’ve tidied up and gotten rid of all that I no longer need? Why do I need to hang on to people who’s reason or season in my life has expired? Sometimes, we need to take a look at the direction we’re heading in and ask if this person is going to be supportive of my choices or whether they’ll be honest enough in guiding me. Everyone changes at some point in their life – some faster than others; so we need to examine who our friends are, if they want to take this journey with me or if we need to just break apart because we’re probably not meant to do this together.
The thing about friendship is that, you need someone who is honest with you. Many times, we never want to hear the truth, but what does a true friend do? They tell you the truth, they let you know what you’re doing that’s wrong and they stick with you regardless BUT all the while, they let you hear what you NEED to hear but don’t want to. They don’t interfere, they’re like your conscience – a nagging voice trying to push you in the right direction. So why not take a look at who isn’t doing this for me and put them out with the trash? Why can’t I be surrounded by people who listen, guide, support and nag me? Sometimes a true friend knows their boundaries but stretches beyond them in a loving way to help you understand why they are telling you the truth, why they did not support something you did or said, but is still there for you as a shoulder to cry on.
People don’t have to be in your life for years to make an impact on you. People may not seem like your cup of tea in the beginning but something is keeping you there with them. Are you the one to help them? Are they there to help you in the future but this preliminary acquaintance is stressing you out and you can’t shake them? We never know why God puts people in our lives, and sometimes we’re too stubborn to see why even when it’s right in front of us.
It’s necessary to clean all that is around us because we never know what we’re hoarding that could be toxic for us. Clean yourself on the inside, clean all that affects your daily life, and clean your home, resurrecting all that was covered in dust but you still love dearly.
“Books and friends should be few but good.”