Life – Page 9 – Just a Dash

Barbados = Talent :)

April 27, 2012April 27, 2012by SymoneFLeave a Comment

Today I had plans… They didn’t happen. Except for the car – that was scheduled. I wanted to tidy the apartment, finish packing as much as I could for a little trip, and get a little of the Seattle sun that peeped out today. Well not much of that happened if any.

Anyway, a lot is going on musically in my beloved island that I thought would be a good to share today for my post. We have music and videos. I feel so blessed to come from and island filled with so much talent! Rihanna, Livvi Franc, Allison Hinds, Nexcyx, Cover Drive, Hal Linton, Azman, Miles Robertson just to name a few *queues plug for selling Barbados* You should definitely go! Crystal waters, white sandy beaches, delicious food and friendly people… like me! Haha 🙂

I’ll start with Cover Drive. I’ve mentioned them before and they have a new video out to their single Sparks. Their debut album ‘Bajan Style’ will be released on May 7th. Will you be getting it? You should!

Here is another band from Barbados, hope you can understand them if you aren’t from there!

Now on to my favoritist band (yes I had to make up that word for exaggeration). They just released a new single Nightclub Superheroes which I’m really feeling and bought on iTunes already 🙂 so buy it right after you listen! I’ve also added their cover for Moves Like Jagger in which the lead singer Mahalia does a sick rap on. Let me know what you think!

Just to put Barbados in your head here are a few pics :). I’m from Holetown.

From: http://www.cbt.cc/images/barbados/barbados-map.gif

This is the north of the island on the Atlantic side.

Look at that water 🙂 That dot for a head is my husband lol.

The top pics are from my parent’s home in Barbados/ my “backyard” and you’ll remember the bottom pic from this post. My feet!

I hope you enjoyed this little post. Have a wonderful weekend and be safe!

Home, Life, Uncategorized

For the Real Housewives

April 25, 2012June 10, 2014by SymoneF2 Comments

Lately, whenever I’ve been asked where I work I respond by saying “Fowler Inc.” with a straight face and enjoy the perplexed look I receive from the other person. There is no formal Fowler Inc. but for me there is (I have listed it as my place of employment on Facebook). I’m a housewife, and this job is just as serious as any other job. I run this family of two which we do wish to expand, therefore, in a few years there should be a minimum of four and maximum of six ~~who am I kidding having four kids?!? I should make that three, is it too late???~~

Within a month of being married, my husband made it clear he had no desire to be following up on household stuff. I didn’t mind, it meant I wasn’t sitting twiddling my thumbs so as far as I knew, all was well. We’ll be married for 3 years in September and since October 2009, responsibilities have definitely increased.

Take our car for example. We’re a one car family – hey I don’t drive to work and he doesn’t need it during the day. Taking the car to get serviced etc is all up to me. Dealing with this is knowing what hour he needs to be at work, what hours I’ll be free to take it in and still be able to pick him up on time. I’m listed as the contact for everything. So car is finished – call Symone, we want to call and hassle you to buy your car – call Symone, there is a recall for a part on the car – call Symone, you get the idea?

Being the C.E.O. Of Fowler Inc. means I am the contact for everything and chances are, even when you need to speak to my husband about something I know more than he does on the issue (except anything to do with Comcast, that’s his department).

We started having a “family meeting” for me to know when my husband started work during the week to be helpful in choosing the best times to go the gym for personal training and syncing his work hours with any appointments I may have or he may have or need to be scheduled. This meeting time has now progressed to be the time where I decide what I will cook for the week so I also know how to shop at supermarket. Coordination just helps everything to run smoothly. I have a set day for laundry and cleaning is very spontaneous, but at least I know it happens during a certain period.

I’m always asked what do you do? Aren’t you bored? I run a family who is always on the go, I run a household with chores to be done as well as food to be made (we don’t like eating out a lot), I have to make sure everything on this ship runs smoothly and that 80% of the time there are no hiccups (I’m human I need a margin for error). I will never, and never have, mock the life of a real housewife. I’m not talking about the ones who have staff to run a household and say life is hard. I mean the ones who dig in and get dirty. Who schedule, coordinate, live on coffee to keep everything going smoothly so everyone is mostly happy. Every job is an opportunity for growth and humility. A chance to learn how to be more efficient and feel a great sense of pride in what you do. It doesn’t matter how others speak of your job when you know deep down that you have given it your best and feel some accomplishment for what you’ve achieved. Take pride and work your way up to bigger and better things.

#fastfoodthursdays on the menu 🙂

Fashion, Life, Uncategorized, Women

I’m Sexy and I Know It

April 12, 2012April 26, 2012by SymoneFLeave a Comment

I have two trips coming up and I started looking for outfit ideas on Pinterest to help me with my packing- simple ideas and also for pieces that I can reuse and how to reuse them.

I’m 5’1″ and roughly 120lbs (muscle I wish) and definitely not skinny. I’m not that curvy either but I have a few curves and I’m waiting on my personal earthquake to make some of these fault lines shift. Compared to last year and 2010, I’m definitely more comfortable with my body and learning to accept and embrace it – simply because I know what I can achieve if I make the effort and what I have to live with if I don’t. I would never aspire to be stick thin, personally it’s not sexy. I will have a little pouch for a tummy and I love my thick thighs that my chicken legs seem to have the strength to hold up. I’ll never have a 6pack (not sexy either) preferably, it would be flat but for now this little pouch isn’t making me feel too bad ~~and I don’t believe in spanx~~.

All of this is to say, we see outfits put together, we see people in outfits we’d like to try but our body type doesn’t necessarily say it’s for us. Note I said above I was looking for ideas I don’t own half of the outfits I see online that I would love to wear but what do I have that is similar and flattering for me to wear? That’s the question I ask before I repin, like or even save to my computer. We’re blasted with sooo many images of women who have stomachs you can cut vegetables on, with the perfect proportions, make-up, shoes everything – everything that we, the common woman, don’t have.

It’s amazing what causes us to see ourselves as we do. We have the influence of our parents with our upbringing, school, friends, society, yet deep down we hardly know what to think of our own bodies. Certain things I learned to embrace from early because of the positive feedback I got. The negative stuff… obviously I’m still working on it! We may have partners who love us for us, don’t want us to change a thing but sometimes, it’s not enough. It’s not enough because that hasn’t been seen as acceptable to society. The one person (you) who really makes the difference for a change to occur doesn’t believe it and so it takes forever and maybe a special outsider to make you slowly embrace your “faults” and work with them.

I don’t have the biggest chest, I’m an A cup (I even wrote a poem about them :)) and I was teased about them for a rather long time but since they seem to not be one of my “best” assets, I worked on showing another – my legs. Before I started working out, I was often told I have very firm legs, so why not show them? My hair is very thick, and after I started putting chemicals in it, people often thought it was a weave. As a result, I’ve worn braids ONCE in my life and I refuse to do it again even as I’m growing out my hair. The positive feedback on it has made me proud to show it and not be ashamed. Hey, if you wish you could have my hair and think it’s fake then why should I cover it up? I’d rather spend money making my natural hair look good than a lot of money buying something fake to make it look good. The same effort goes into it anyway…

We need to be more uplifting as women. Wear what shows our best assets, not hide behind clothes, compliment each other, and offer suggestions in a loving manner not make others feel bad and also be open to that criticism – sometimes we do not see what others see when we look at ourselves in the mirror.

Just for a little laugh here is the poem. It was written in dialect but hopefully you get the idea if you aren’t from the Caribbean. It was a response to a poem someone else did.

‘A’ Cup Titties

You’d love to see the brazier terrorist…

But I know you can’t come better than this.

You want to see the double D’s and E’s hang free

More than seeing the A’s sit up nice and perky?

I’d love to see your face that day

When their nipples point down south and have more sway.

My breasts do not define me,

The same way it shouldn’t for you if you have man boobs and a big belly

Because we have other assets and qualities

That could turn your world upside down you see

They may not have extended past certain boundaries

But who knows what’s possible after a few picknies (children)

I won’t get upset and miserable,

‘Cus I remember hearing guys say they only need a mouthful.

Ain’t nothing gonna come between me and my small tits

‘Cus I love these lil chicas to bits

They don’t have to be exposed

They don’t need to be resting under my nose

All I need for you to know is I’m a girl

Even with my little pearls

Now I ain dissing my girls with the big bubbies

But I had to come tonight and drop de nitty gritty

‘Cus people need to appreciate and not underestimate de A cup titties.

“Everybody is unique. Compare not yourself with anybody else lest you spoil God’s curriculum.” — Baal Shem Tov