I think by now you’ve realized that this is more a mom blog than lifestyle blog. It’s just¬†that parenting has become my lifestyle and is something I’m all about sharing. I don’t think I ever shared my birth story but I had a natural birth and if you want to hear about it and me playing the Lion King song… let me know below.

Recently, my friend wrote about her C-section experience for her friend and shared it with me. Naturally, I asked if I could share it here, and she said yes!! I’ve edited it to take out a few personal bits and generalized it since I don’t know what anyone is having. And if you’re having a boy, seeing “she/her” all the time would be annoying lol. I don’t think I could’ve had a better person write and share their experience because she has definitely lightened the mood if you were having one and are worried.

Enough small talk. Enjoy…

C-Sections – as told by Sabrina ūüôā

There are so many things that I wish I had known going in, so I’d love to pass this stuff on. Especially, because it isn’t going to be written on the interwebs.

Prep for you

* If it’s something that you¬†care about;¬†clean the house now because you literally¬†can’t for 6 weeks.¬†

* Get large pads! You’ll still bleed even though it wasn’t a vaginal birth.

* Buy the biggest underwear you¬†can get!! I ended up¬†cutting the (fuck I don’t know what the word is…) strap thingy on top that holds them up. It would¬†constrain my innards and mess with my incision.¬†

* Put on bed sheets that you don’t¬†care about, just in¬†case.¬†


Are you going to go into labor first, or will they induce on a specific day? I¬†can explain the process if it’s labor, but if you’re just going in then here’s what will happen.

* You’ll get an epidural. You’ll bend forward and usually be facing your husband who WILL HOLD YOUR HAND! They numb you first. That needle is surprising and isn’t pleasant. Then they stick the tube in that delivers medicine. The tube will stay in you until after the surgery.¬†I actually You-tubed the procedure to know what to expect.

* Your husband will put on scrubs, you’ll get a hat, and have to take a shot of gross orange stuff. They’ll also shave your bikini line. The incision is much lower than you’d expect!¬†

– At this point, I was shaking uncontrollably. I’m sure it was the adrenaline. Just the thought of actually having a baby was really hitting me and I was super excited and scared. My teeth kept¬†chattering. I bit my tongue so much to try and stop it. Know that this¬†can happen.¬†

* Nurses will lift you onto a gurney and roll you into the OR. It’s bright, white,¬†cold and full of people staring at you naked. You won’t¬†care.

* They’ll set you up on the table and start prepping the room. They’ll give your husband a seat by your head. Your arms will be spread out like Jesus. The anesthesiologist will be right there, pumping you up with drugs. Keep telling them to do more if you even feel the slightest bit of them pinching!¬†

* When you¬†confirm that you¬†can’t feel anything, they will start. It takes a little bit, because there are a lot more layers on your innards than you’d expect.¬†

Eventually, they’ll reach in and pull out baby! You¬†can breathe again – holy shit!! You don’t get to see them yet though. They will take the baby to¬†check vitals and get¬†cleaned up. Your husband will be¬†called to meet the baby,¬†cut the¬†cord, take pictures, etc. Then they’ll bring them back for you to meet. It’s the most surreal thing you¬†can imagine.¬†

Overall, the surgery takes about 30-45 minutes. When you’re done you go back into the recovery room for about an hour and a half, after which they transfer you to a much smaller room.

Hospital Stay for you

* They’ll keep telling you that it’s important to sleep. But there will be someone in the room with you once every hour. Whether it‚Äôs for testing you or your child. That first night, you won’t sleep at all. And you’ll want to murder everyone. Not much you¬†can do about it.

* Unfortunately, one of the tests for you is to press on your belly (a few times a day) to make sure you’re healing up¬†correctly. It sucks balls. But the pain goes away quickly and you¬†can keep pressing your awesome pain meds button to up the dose.¬†

* Nurses will make you stand up quicker than you’d want to and believe you’re¬†capable of. But you have to do it! If anything, you have to try.¬†

* I was so drugged that I’m not sure when I was able to get the¬†catheter and IV out. All I remember is that I had a goal of getting to the bathroom and peeing 3 times in order for me to get one of them out.¬†For the¬†catheter removal, take a deep breath and exhale. It’s just heeby jeebies, not pain. And I didn’t know that the IV isn’t a needle but a little tube; just like the epidural. So it’s not painful if you bend your hand.

* The hospital gave me a spray bottle to fill with warm water and aim at my nethers in order to pee and not be in pain. Luckily, it’s not as bad as it¬†could have been with a vaginal delivery. Pooping, will take a while, even for those of us with IBS. The drugs they give you stop you up. Don’t push it though. Literally. Don’t strain.

* Before you go, they’ll take out the staples in your incision. I was terrified. It isn’t that bad. Just have a normal¬†chat with your husband as a distraction.

Hospital Stay for baby

* Baby will get a bath, and you’ll be taught how to do this.

* Nurses will also show you how to swaddle and change a diaper.

* There will be a hearing test that usually takes 5 minutes, but the baby must be awake for it.

* They do heel pokes to draw blood. The blood spots will go onto pieces of paper to¬†conduct tests. They’ll need several of these. They will¬†cry and your heart will break.¬†

* If you want me to tell you about jaundice procedures, let me know. Logan had it.

Checking out of the hospital

*¬†Ask the nurses for things before you go. More pads (they’re like diapers) and the mesh undies. I¬†can’t stress enough, how much I loved the undies!!

* I’m not sure how your hospital does it, but if it’s anything like my experience, you’ll need to¬†complete a¬†checklist. This will include seeing you and testing you on your¬†car seat. So figure that shit out before you go in. You’ll need to pack baby in super tight!¬†


It is very important to heed the doctor’s advice – DON’T DO ANYTHING!! You¬†can take¬†care of and hold your child, but that’s it. No¬†cleaning, laundry, dishes, vacuuming, bending over unless absolutely necessary, etc.¬†Walk slowly and only in your house. Don’t leave your house. Don’t use stairs unless you have to (I have 16 to get up to my place. I didn’t leave for 2 weeks).

You will be so fucking frustrated that you¬†can’t do anything because some days you feel like you¬†can. But you will pay for that dearly! So don’t even be tempted!¬†

They probably won’t prescribe you enough pain pills. So make sure you set up a follow up appointment before they go away. You’ll have to go back in, but they will give you more.¬†

Speaking of pills, you’ll have lots to take. Make a¬†chart so you don’t forget any. You need to take all of them to heal. I had to set my alarm for some in the middle of the night – not like you’ll really be sleeping at first anyways.¬†

There’s a 6 week¬†checkup and they’ll give you the go ahead to have sex and resume activities. LOLOLOL!! You’ll still need time. I say 8 weeks before you¬†can actually walk at a normal pace. And have lube for sex. Even with a¬†C-section, your junk is messed up and dry.¬†

I think I felt worlds better by 10 weeks. That’s sleeping on my stomach, ability to jog,¬†carry groceries, Rufio (dog), bend over, do laundry – everything.¬†

The only lasting effects I have are some tenderness on my underbelly (you’ll have a deflated basketball belly after the baby comes out) and numbness on my scar (apparently that’s normal and will last forever).

I know it’s a lot to take in (that’s what she said) but you’ll¬†have your baby with you the whole time and they’ll be a great distraction!¬†


Kitchen Lessons

Now that I have a toddler, parenting lessons are happening every day but I’ve been trying my best to not just see it as a phase but understand what his needs are.

I’m learning that my little one loves to watch and be in the kitchen with me. He loves to see what I’m stirring, chopping, and putting¬†in the oven. I can only hope it means that he’ll take up cooking as a hobby at some point. Not a chef though, I think it’ll be hard to get him to cook for family gatherings… so just a hobby.

Since we moved into our house though, he’s had more cupboards, a new gas range and new ovens to explore. I try my best to keep him away from them but I can only do so much. I’ve resorted to putting him in his high chair and giving him snacks while I cook. That way he can still see what’s going on but from a little distance. He’s also aware that after his bath, when he hears the gas stove ignite that I’m warming¬†his milk to have before bed and insists on me picking him up so he can watch the pot.

I thought I could teach him to stop going in the cupboards and pulling at everything but his kitchen shenanigans have taught me a few things.

  1. One of the reasons he does it, is to get my attention. When he comes to me and I’m busy with dirty hands, he opens every cupboard door and touches things or pulls them out until I pick him up. I finally bought cupboard locks on Monday.
  2. Babies can’t talk and when they exhibit a certain behavior, in your frustration, it’s better to try to understand their needs than think they’re being naughty.
  3. I should’ve bought those locks when we moved in. Even though it’s only been 3 days and they’re driving me insane.
  4. This is a natural learning behavior – to be inquisitive. While it should be encouraged, I do not need to have it happen all the time so the locks will help me keep my sanity a bit. It is a teaching moment for both of us – it’s teaching me patience and he’s learning about the kitchen and what is used in it.

There may be a million books on parenting but the one thing you don’t need a book for is patience – it’s at the heart of parenting. We all have our days when our patience is wearing thin or is practically non-existent, just make sure those days aren’t the norm.


To Celebrate Or Not To‚Ķ

Like many other moms/parents, I had a debate over what to do for baby‚Äôs first birthday. One comment I heard often was ‚Äúthey‚Äôre not going to remember it anyway!‚ÄĚ. At first I agreed, and thought there shouldn‚Äôt be much fuss to it.

After we got back from our travels in January, Kai returned to his usual Gymboree class and he’d advanced to Level 3. My big boy! He was SO HAPPY at class that I decided to inquire about availability for his birthday. Someone had already booked March 26th so I took April 2nd.

I had two reasons for booking this. 1) Gymboree was clearly his happy place that you really saw his true personality and happiness come out. 2) We were in the process of purchasing our home and I didn‚Äôt know how things would be and all I had to do was provide food ‚Äď less stress for me.

Now, I also did this because, regardless of whether or not he‚Äôll remember it (he’ll get to see pics too!!), we‚Äôve had our little one for a year. A year that flew by so quickly that made us grow as parents, showed us that there is a whole other level of love and, seeing our little one in his element just brings so much joy to us that we want to share it with others.

NOTHING prepares you for parenthood. Not being a nanny, not being a babysitter, not being an aunt… NOTHING. I’m an aunt and I helped my sister a lot. I also babysat a bit before moving to America. Nothing prepared me for having my own child.

Now I’m not telling you that you must have a birthday party for your little one, but consider how much has changed and happened in that      one year and see it as a cause for celebration, in any form or fashion. Celebrate it. We see everyday how short life can be. We see how quickly our lives change once we’ve had a baby and how quickly that baby grows to be a toddler.

I love to celebrate birthdays. I love the opportunity to celebrate reaching another year with my loved ones. I’m not able to celebrate it with all of my family and friends now that I live so far away from them so I will do the most with whoever is near and dear to me.

Just a little food for thought ūüôā .

Photo: The Plum Blogger

:: One of my favorites from a mini shoot we did at home with our friends for his 1st birthday. ::