Reblog: “She Is Just Another Golddigger”

I’m posting a link to a blog I just read. I tend to follow people that I not only relate to but make me feel like they’re talking to me as a friend and not just writing for someone to read and enjoy… I guess you can say somewhat conversational? Anyway, Fey is from Cuba and lives in South Florida. I absolutely love her personality and this post is one that is uplifting for women and also a good read. Feel free to check out her other posts.


Real Simple: Cleaning & Women

Occasionally I post daily thought’s that I receive in my email from Real Simple. I really like Real Simple. I was on looking for cake/dessert recipes (because I want to get back in to baking) and I came across this article at the end of a slideshow: 8 Secrets Why Women Love to Clean. I found this to be quite funny and interesting considering the cleaning spree I’ve been on recently. As I mentioned before, we’re moving and I’ve been taking my time cleaning out areas so that moving will be smooth and I won’t be stressing over what really needs to go with us and what will be trashed. I was also thinking a lot recently about why I get overwhelmed with feelings I cannot describe when I clean. Well as fate would have it this article landed in my lap and I’m going to share my personal thoughts on each of the secrets.

Let’s get to it!

  1. It gives you a sense of accomplishment: very true. Whenever a day goes by (like today, I was feeling rather ill) and I do not even do something small like clean the kitchen, I feel like I’ve done nothing. NOTHING. But after this post, I’m going to do it – I need to.
  2. It calms your mind: I’m not 100% in agreement with this. Sometimes while cleaning, I get more worked up if I realize there is actually more to be done than I expected or if the task to be done feels impossible to complete. And I have a few of those… But I still clean like crazy when I’m pissed.
  3. It’s a way to stay in control: It truly is! We can’t control everything around us but we can our personal surroundings. Even a basic clean up makes you feel like you you have everything together and you are – in control.
  4. It’s a stress reducer: Agreed! I find myself cleaning when I feel stressed out or I’m upset about something.
  5. It’s a form of meditation: I’d more say a shower is but I find I get a lot of thinking done when I am at the kitchen sink and it’s also why I don’t use my dishwasher as often; plus I hate the sound of it when I’m home. Folding laundry also gets me thinking and it also exercises my brain when I try to recollect what happened on the day I wore certain items of clothing.
  6. It’s a mood boosting workout: With this one, the first word I saw was workout but on the mood, I do feel better once I’ve cleaned – physically and emotionally. I always think of cleaning as a workout because if I’m on a roll, I like to think I could skip a session at the gym. My vacuum is a little heavy so that’s a good arm workout ;). But I do feel like the physical clutter is less mental clutter and I can move on to other things.
  7. It’s a reflection of who you are and how you feel: When you have a mess, it says you don’t have time. It says that you aren’t organized and you don’t have everything together. I have to say that I have bits of mess about the place that I’m working really hard to clean up. I guess that says where I am in life as well? Somewhat true, but at least I know I’m on the right path if that’s how I feel about my physical space. 
  8. It’s a reflection of how you take care of yourself: As the saying goes “cleanliness is next to goodliness”. My mother would always get into a cleaning fit as she heard someone was passing by our home. Even if the house was clean, she’d still want any little bits of clutter tidied, go over the floors with the mop once and shut all the doors to hide any untidiness like my messy room :). Now that I live on my own with my husband, I know exactly what she was doing and unfortunately/fortunately I do the same thing. When someone enters your home, you want what they see to be a reflection of how you look after yourself. You want them to be comfortable and to feel like they won’t catch something from your home or have this lingering scent burning their nose. You want them to feel like your home is a good place, that you are a good person and you look after yourself and your surroundings. 
Women are expected to be the cleaners so I guess it’s only rational that it has some emotional attachment to it and isn’t just a physical act. What does cleaning do for you? Is any of the article true?

Silicon Valley

Silicon Valley

I just came back from a trip to San Francisco today and it was a mix of business and pleasure but more to spend Memorial day with his college friend/best man. This was my first time there and my husband’s third and I had a wonderful time. Not once did we eat at a food chain and that also enhanced the experience – being able to eat at hidden gems. Just to name a few, we ate at Mission Beach Cafe (brunch – amazing brioche French toast), Cha Cha Cha (dinner – a Cuban fusion also the BEST meal of the trip) and Left Bank Brasserie (dinner – didn’t eat here but had an amazing cocktail).

Over the weekend, our host took us to the waterfront in San Francisco, we drove through Napa Valley, along the coast by Point Reyes (Limatour beach), down to Stinson beach, across the Golden gate bridge and also to have brunch at Fred’s Place in Sausalito. It was a touristy and fun trip. I may have gained a pound or five but it was definitely worth it. Another plus is that we did a lot of walking so I was able to exercise a bit in there.

While there, my husband did his first presentation on behalf of Microsoft (despite everyone thinking he was there for an interview at some company) and we visited other tech companies like Github, Twitter, IMO.Im and EA Games. As I mentioned before, he works for Microsoft, and one thing I found particularly interesting is the female to male ratio in these companies. From what I’ve seen in the last three years, with his team and just waiting around when I pick him up from work, there are way more men than women. I may see a few when I go to pick him up but still not that many.

Twitter was our first stop on our first day and it was a total shock for me to see so many women there. We then went to, I saw one woman there. On to Github and out of about 20 people again, only 2 women. That seemed more normal to me. Don’t get me wrong, it was good that so many women are in the Twitter office but I’m sure it can be said that the tech industry is dominated by males and wherever there is an abundance of women, one may be forced to do a double take or just simply be in shock. At the same time, as a woman, it was nice to see.

As much as I enjoyed the trip, I have say that the next time I go back with my husband, he is banned from tweeting, or sharing any status about being there. For those interested in meeting him or showing him around, please consider that his wife is with him and my face hurts after a while of pretending to be interested in any conversation about your projects. This trip was an exception. I encouraged him to see a few places and I wanted to see them as well since I heard so much about them. Sometimes my smile is genuine because I actually do know what is being discussed and I’m assuming you don’t think I do.

I will say I feel more inclined to take a class or two on programming so that I won’t be totally clueless with some jokes also just to get a kick out of seeing the look of shock on my husband’s face when I mention something he thinks I’m clueless about.

To document my visit/tours I got the following shirts and I intend to have some fun wearing them and have people guessing what I do for a living :).

I will have a followup post with pictures coming but I had to get this text part out while it was still fresh in my head :P. Hope you enjoyed this post!