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Let’s Take It Up a Notch!

by SymoneFLeave a Comment on Let’s Take It Up a Notch!

I think it can be said that most of our “ingenious” ideas pop into our heads when we’re doing one of three things:

  • travelling from point A to B
  • using the bathroom
  • taking a shower

Well in taking my shower just now, after having a Facebook message conversation with a friend, something popped into my head. She asked if I was working (the infamous question for me). I get this a lot and when I explain that I cannot work due to the type of visa I have, I somehow proceed naturally to explain the “work” I do. I run a house. No kids or not pets as yet, but I run a house. Better yet, a home. This post isn’t going to go into detail about that but something more interesting (to me at least).

Often a housewife has two extreme identities associated with her. One is loyal, hardworking, modest, moves swiftly when beckoned and is often not in the limelight but the support behind the spouse that is. Then we have the “gold-digger”housewife who does nothing, is a sexaholic/no sex and spends his money like crazy while always looking good. But why don’t we ever hear or see those who are the perfect blend of those two? Do they exist? I think so because I think I’m one. I won’t say what the perfect mix is, I think it’s pretty obvious, but I want to address the marriage aspect.

I want to address how the spouse views it. More importantly, how we let our spouse view us. I’m sorry but the career woman thing is crap to me as no career could stop me from having a family. It’s called retirement for a reason, you sit back and let your kids look after you and your pension, not spend you pension on your 16 year old. Anyway, back to my point. I can’t say all housewives go into the marriage knowing they will be one, but it’s what happens when they are one.

First let me address the marriage. I don’t have statistics about how many young women are getting married but I will speak about myself. When I got married at 22, I thought “school is over, time for the big girl act: make-up, heels and classy but sexy wardrobe”. Well, my flat feet allow me to barely make heels comfortable for 10 minutes if that long. I HATE foundation and powder, eyeshadow comes out for special occasions, and lipstick makes an appearance when I want to feel “woman-ish”. So there goes that whole thought; but there’s more to me than my physical appearance. Confidence can be worn with lip balm, jeans, a vest and some chucks and look better than a pencil skirt suit with a full face of make up, Jimmy Choos and an up-do.

As a 21st Century housewife, I don’t let myself go, I exercise and make and effort when I leave home to not look homeless. I keep the house clean, it is my workspace. I make sure my husband is happy, he’s giving me a salary – not allowance; so can I be like his dirty little secretary? I’m as confident as the female CEO of a Fortune 500 company because I run this home, it’s my Fortune 500 company and it won’t run to the ground.  I remember that at the end of the day, it’s us, we’ve become our own family, a new branch of our own family trees.

So from this my husband knows I won’t sit around all day doing nothing, therefore, he can’t call me lazy. He can’t say he’s not attracted to me because even if I did gain 15lbs from being a newlywed, I lost it and look better than before we were married. He can’t say he doesn’t want to take me anywhere for fear of embarrassment, because he knows I’m educated and confident.

It’s not about losing yourself in the marriage or family but remembering what got you there and keeping goals for yourself to make sure you only improve each year and not digress.

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Reflections

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Recently I’ve been placed with a few personal challenges and I feel obliged to share something on it.

For the religious people, “let go and let God”. For the non-religious “take a step back and take a breath, then go again”.

Sometimes we have goals in mind and the road is filled with many minor obstacles but we must not lose sight of what we want. Often when it seems like we are doing everything we possibly can to head in the right direction it seems like no progress is being made. It seems like a never ending cycle that just isn’t working out the way we want.

I was starting to feel discouraged, but I did not want to give up. I’m still working on what I want and I have no doubt it will happen for me, but I’ve decided a distraction is what I really need. Sometimes we say we’ve let go or we’re not studying it anymore but subconsciously it’s like a broken record skipping in our head.

One of my goals for this year was to step out of my box and do more. So I will attempt some volunteering and making the gym/exercise a regular practice and not occasionally. From this I hope to achieve some form of release. To not be able to hear the record skipping but to hear the song finish and move onto another one. And with each song that plays, there’s a skip in my step to the beat and a joy in my heart knowing that things will work out sooner or later and not in my timing but His.

Even better is knowing I have a supportive husband by my side. And even though we sometimes feel like no one will understand or we don’t have any one for support, just remember at the end of the day, in order to succeed and to achieve what you want, YOU have to work for it, work at it and BELIEVE in yourself. No one else can do it for you. Don’t let those who try to push you down or keep you down determine whether or not you stay there. Use them as steps to climb the ladder of success and proceed to eat from the tree of life and smile and say I did it. You determine where you go in life. Partners are there for support but the final decision is yours.

Be wise, and know everything is possible once you have faith.

Bless.

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Hellur!!

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HELLO!

This is my new blog! I’m making a change for the new year. My old blog can still be found at http://enomsay.tumblr.com/ to see what I’ve come from and follow me here to see where I think I’m going (lol). I just want to be more aware of who is following me and Tumblr wasn’t allowing me to do that. I have a few projects in mind that involve the  reconstruction of some pieces I have in my wardrobe. I’m also reading a book called Goodnight Tweetheart by Teresa Medeiros. I’ll let you know what I think of this one as it’s the first novel I’m reading related to social media – something I’ve been having mixed feelings about recently.  I want to branch out in my cooking and try some new dishes/foods  just to see where my palette is going with age. I look forward to sharing all of this and more with you!

Bless.