Just a Dash

Why Am I so Shy…

May 22, 2012May 22, 2012by SymoneF2 Comments

A rainy day in the Caribbean cannot be compared to a rainy day in Seattle. In Barbados, we had a hard downpour for the day or a few but never this misty rain that falls for about 10 days in a row. I’ve adjusted. I’m fine now. It’s just another rainy day.

From Friday to Sunday, my husband and I went on dates every day. It wasn’t planned, it just happened. Friday and Saturday were nice and sunny, Sunday the rain came back. Sitting in a restaurant/café and having conversations with the one you love just does something to you. We’ve been married for just over two and a half years and together for over 10, and up to this day, you’d think we just met each other if you watched us from a distance. We’re playful, we’re always laughing, even when there isn’t verbal communication we still know what the other is thinking with one look. There’s love. We’ve been put to the test many times but we’re still here. And in this gloomy rainy weather, things are just getting better.

But why am I so shy around him still? I would love to know but at the same time I don’t want to. I love feeling like a little school girl sometimes with butterflies. Another rainy day, and I can’t wait for him to come home.

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Distance makes the love stronger

May 18, 2012May 18, 2012by SymoneFLeave a Comment

Besides the cold and gloomy weather in Seattle, one of the hardest things I’ve had to deal with is being so far away from my family. I am very close to my family. After I left, everyone had a blackberry so that we can keep in touch. We Skype at least 2 or 3 times a week but still talk everyday via Whatsapp now since I no longer have a Blackberry. I’m missing my niece and nephew grow into characters but I truly cherish the time I spend with them whenever I go home. I envy my sister and the help she has with them because it’s something I won’t have.

One positive thing about this is that my husband and I have been able to grow as a couple without family interference. How nice is that huh? Newlyweds and teenagers probably get interrogated more than any other group. Well obviously besides criminals, suspects, persons of interest, you get the point. “When are you having kids?”, “Does she cook?”, “When are you buying a house?”, “Pregnant yet?”, “You’re putting on weight, you must be happy!?”, “Kids yet? Oh don’t worry, get all your travelling in before they come!”, “How’s married life?” (x10,000,000). We just deal with it whenever we go home for those who haven’t seen us for a year or however long it was since our last visit. We’re going into our third year and it’s wearing off so I’m happy about that.

We can also choose what we wish to share. It’s not like we had an argument, then went by one of our parents and they saw the tension and we told them what happened, and they feel obliged to give us some kind of insight on how to resolve the situation, which may then influence our perspective. Yes, it’s nice to hear how different people handle situations in marriage but sometimes, but you want to be the one asking for advice not being given it voluntarily. Some things are best resolved without other people getting involved.

I know it all boils down to people being happy for you and wanting the best but sometimes it can be too much. The space is necessary. Besides, you and your partner know each other – your father doesn’t know your wife like you do, your mother doesn’t know your husband like you do. Most of the time, they’ve only heard one side of the story in arguments and that isn’t enough – biased opinions do not help any situation. We’ve been together for a loooong time and we’ve had our share of ups and downs, and we know that things are best resolved when kept between us and we work on it. Any other person that gets involved isn’t with you 24/7 so, technically, they do not know every aspect of your relationship enough to give input like they are.

The main thing is that you have started your life as one and you should live as one. Yes, two families have been brought together and hopefully, they bring successful marriages for reference, but it’s important that people ask for help instead of it being offered. After all, that’s what everyone wants – a successful marriage.

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A Microsoft Wife

May 14, 2012May 14, 2012by SymoneF1 Comment

The ONLY reason I’m living in Seattle is because of my husband. Well his job. I hope you didn’t think this was a random place I chose on a map of America to get away from the tropics… I’d be on crack if I did. Anyway, he’s a software engineer and doing a very fine job at it. I’ve been introduced to a few wives within this industry and not all have an idea of what their husbands do, the team they’re on, their job titles, what building they’re in or even went to the Christmas party. But not me… I’ve been thrown in because I’m his best friend (I think). I know everything about what he does even if I don’t have a single clue when he’s explaining it. Technically you can say I can regurgitate it, although he can give a few analogies to help me understand what he’s really doing.

Part of being married to this nerd (and a fine one at that ;)) is that I have come to be a little “techy” myself. He gives me such a run around that I try everything before I ask him for help. Bing, Google, reset, unplug, click everything until something happens. That is what my life is about when I’m faced with a problem with some electronic device. Two years ago, I wanted to unlock the very old iPhone we have to use at home. He refused to do it for me, said go online and figure it out. I did. And after not being able to do it after a million tries, he resolved that I had the wrong program for the phone and then he did it :D. But the point is, I tried. Normally, you only have to show me how to do something twice (max) for me to be able to do it on my own. I don’t believe someone will always be around to help me and it’s just better if I give it a shot myself.

Keyboard shortcuts – I know a few, if I don’t, Bing it. Lost safari on my iPhone home screen the other day and was freaking out – Binged it. Got it back. (Took an hour trying on and off because one option wasn’t working >_<). Setting up wi-fi on printers, all electronics in the house – I got it covered. Something comes on the news about a tech company – I listen and relay the story for him to follow up. Don’t know the answer? BING IT!

The other aspect of this is experimenting and being aware of websites. No I don’t read everything but, he’s read it, is infatuated with it, shares with me and then I know. I tend to know a few things going on in the tech industry before the average Joe and it also makes me to jump in and try things even if I don’t want to just to get him off my back. Google +, Facebook (new timelines), Twitter, About.me and Klout may soon be added, but all of the aforementioned I joined because of him. For him it’s more about what the company has done and he wants to use me in his personal usability study. When everyone is complaining about some change, I’ve adjusted. It’s become my way of life for dealing with my nerd, and I don’t mind.

One thing about programers is that they don’t sleep and, somehow, he thinks this should extend to me, but I need my 8 hours (minimum, 9 is preferred). I’m up before he is, making breakfast (which I use to wake him up) and getting ready for the day. I do need my beauty sleep… not for physical appearance but to make sure I’m a pleasant person when encountered. Lack of sleep and being forced to get up against my will do not sit well with me. Since my day revolves around his, everything is scheduled around the time of his first meeting. Yes, he does not do 8-4.30/9-5/10-6. I’m very spoiled in this regard. I only see 7am when I’m going to the gym for 9am or flying somewhere, not because he has to be at work for 8 and even then, that’s not guaranteed to happen at least once for the year. *Amen*. However, he works non-stop. The lack of sleep is due to him working on something that has to work before he goes to bed. I’m still trying to break this habit so he can get more sleep but I’m positive this year will see a better sleep schedule.

The most important part of being a Microsoft wife is to be supportive. He hasn’t gotten where he is solely on the fact that he’s always up working but he has me making sure everything else is being looked after. But hard work is rewarded with a lot of play time which is what makes us happy people.