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Patience is key

June 26, 2012by SymoneFLeave a Comment

I’m going to start off this post with what prompted me to write it – my broken nail. I find it a bit interesting that the same nail broke within less than two months. I don’t even want to ponder on why that happened… I’m more annoyed that I can’t keep a damn nail. In this post, I noted that I was trying liquid gel over my natural nails. That went left when I went for a touch up, she rushed it and I didn’t like the result after one week. So I removed them and then put on powdered gel. And this is the result. I just want nice nails!!!! Is that so hard? I have tried growing them again and again but I realised that the problem is I have my hands in water TOO much and that isn’t helping me at all. So I am going to remove the gel on my nails tonight and hope that Sally Hansen can get them to a nice hard length soon. I should also consider being more aware that these nails are not stone and can’t handle everything…

I don’t have much patience at all. It sucks but I’m coming to that conclusion. That’s good right? That I can acknowledge my weaknesses even though it may take me years to get them to a manageable level? Who knows. I’m a sulker. I sulk when I don’t get my way, but fortunately, I’ve been realising in my older years this doesn’t help shit either. So what do I do? Again, in my older years, I’ve been trying hard to pray for patience. Pray to be less stressed about that which I cannot control. Pray to be a stronger person. Pray for wisdom. Pray for humility, strength and guidance. No this isn’t about my nail anymore in case you were confused. This is about life.

Don’t sweat the small stuff… and it’s all small stuff. – Richard Carlson

Then why is it so hard for me? I’m still searching for the right answer. That will lead me to a peaceful, patient path in life where I am more relaxed. That tension headaches become a thing of the past. Shoot, I sound very controlling and anal. I’m not – at least not anal, I could take controlling. I just like order.

Change is inevitable. Change happens every day for us. Patience to see where change takes us is key. Patience to know if we’ve experienced a good or bad change and how to make it a positive experience for ourselves is important.

I sound rather pensive today. I am. I’m also tired and looking around at my empty walls of which I just removed all pictures and paintings and frames to pack into boxes for our move.

I like the change that’s coming. Even if it doesn’t go well in the beginning a lesson is always meant to be learnt from life.

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Date Night

March 23, 2012April 26, 2012by SymoneFLeave a Comment

As I was flying to Orlando this weekend, I was reading a book on my Kindle Fire (yes I’m advertising) Before you put that on: 365 Daily Style Tips for Her by Llyod Boston and the day’s theme was “Create a sexy ‘date night’ outfit that sparkles for the evening – even of you’ve been married to your date for years.” I found this funny and here is why: I love dressing up but my husband hates it lol! He’ll tell me I look pretty/beautiful or whatever but he doesn’t understand why I’m making so much effort. All I want to do is have him be proud of the lady standing next to him and proud to say: “yeah! That’s my wife!” not look like I rolled out of some dumpster or shipwreck (which I never do but still). I like to keep my style simple and underrated, but my hair must be done and I must feel polished so to speak. For him, it’s more the extra time I take plus he prefers me sans make-up but as I said – polished. I may try out a fashion or two but if it doesn’t blend with what I consider to be “me” I’ll hesitate, ask mum or a friend or two and experiment with it but not let it overshadow who I am. What you see is what you get, and I hope that 4 out of 5 times that you’ve seen me only the length of my hair is the most dramatic transformation.

But isn’t that what men want anyway? A face that isn’t totally transformed when the make-up has been washed off? When the booty pads and enhanced bras come off, we don’t look half the size we portrayed? I like to think I’m keeping it as natural as possible, no matter who I’m meeting. My husband prefers when we’re “equally” dressed – jeans, t-shirt/shirt, slippers/sneakers/shoes but he knows me well enough to know that I will only do that sometimes but other times he has to step up to me :P.

As you’ll see in the pics below, I went for a somewhat vintage look for the wedding. I bought this dress for the wedding from Lulus but was going to wear another one (also from Lulus), even bought shoes for the second one but luckily they went with this one as well and hence my vintage look. I think my style can be classified as simple and sophisticated. I believe in a neutral palette for my face (I’ll add a pop of color in my eyeshadow or on my lips to change it up sometimes) but I think natural beauty should always shine through. Hubby was looking rather sharp at the wedding as well 🙂 cleans up nice when he has to :P. (He’ll probably kill me for saying that lol!)

Anyway, this advice reminded me that regardless, when you look good, you feel good and that translates to your confidence and when you have confidence in yourself, you feel like you can do anything and that is better than shying away from the world or even the people you love. Hence the date night can have a better “happy ending” than you expected 😉 LOL.

“Styles, like everything else, change. Style doesn’t” – Linda Ellerbee

Life, Quotes, Uncategorized

Did you know..

March 17, 2012April 26, 2012by SymoneFLeave a Comment

Did you know that you are in control? You have the control over your tongue, that spews words that even if they aren’t meant, can’t be taken back? You have control over your body language, your thoughts and actions?

Did you know that you can lose control of all of the above – intentionally and unintentionally. You can’t take back a lot of what has been done. You can’t take back what has been said and the effect it had on someone or even yourself for thinking it. You can’t take back the past, but you can make a greater effect on the future.

People argue all the time. Even the most perfect relationships have their ups and downs but do you know know what makes them last? Acknowledgement – Yes, I was wrong and I’m sorry. No, I didn’t like how I spoke to you and I’d like to change that because I don’t want it happening again. Yes you hurt me, but can we work on this not happening again? Forgiveness is a cure that isn’t often prescribed but works better than any other pill. Accept that something hasn’t been done right and know that it will not define you as a person. Forgive the person who has done you wrong and know that they will not control you with their invisible puppet strings from a distance.

One of the hardest things to do is acknowledge when you are wrong, and oh the world of a difference it can make when you do. Lord knows I’m trying to right all the wrongs from my past and it’s a work in progress. But I’ve accepted the errors and I’m working to make sure they never happen again. I don’t want to be who I was before, I want to be better. I’m not erasing my character on the whole and becoming unrecognizable, I’m working on tweaking those negative factors… Did you know change is possible, but you have to want to make that change? It’s not about looking for someone who has done you wrong and casting the blame on them for how your life turned out. It’s about looking inside, finding out how you contributed to it and changing that aspect of your character to make sure it never happens again. The track and field runner who had a weak running start doesn’t get better by bitching about it, but practicing and changing his technique until he finds one that works for him and improves his race. What do you need to change to help you run a better race in this journey of life?

Did you know… it’s never too late?

“In the end, what affect your life most deeply are things too simple to talk about.”― Nell Blaine

This quote is deep. I’ve re-read it so many times in my head and it still baffles me how much deeper it goes with each read. It keeps bringing to mind the kind acts someone has done for me and how they made me feel. Simple, kind acts. Like the other day when I told you about the person who paid for my tea at Starbucks and how speechless it left me. Or when I feel like I’m very out of it and someone smiles a genuine smile – not the hey-how-can-I-help-you-today-smile that’s part of your job description. Or how you feel when your partner calls to just check in on you out of the blue because they were thinking of you.

Did you know that sometimes, it’s the simple things that have made the most impact on our daily lives? Like the relationships that have formed and blossomed because it started with a smile or a kind gesture. We can easily be swept away by thinking of what people have not done for us, but think of what they have done and how it has made us feel and why they are still in our lives (except for family). Find the simple things, talk about them and be amazed by your true feelings. You never know what tomorrow may bring.