Today is a day that I have the motto: to each his own. Valentine’s Day is a day that could come and go for me. In all of the years my husband and I have been together, I can’t say we have some kind of tradition for it and I’ll tell you why. I’ve been really busy recently and last week my husband asked if I had started cooking dinner yet, and I said no and asked if he wanted to take me to dinner jokingly and he said yes. We went to dinner and he told me it was in appreciation for all that I was doing recently. That gesture meant so much to me. With little acts like that, especially so spontaneous, I do not look forward to a day that’s planned for showing me appreciation and love. It’s almost like I feel like I have to do something to deserve it on that day – cook a special meal or do something major to make him see how much I pay attention to him or something. I just get a card, and that is because that is what I want to do for him. A little reassurance goes a long way.
I’m not anti-Valentine’s day, I’m just not for the commercial aspect of it – the jewelry, chocolates, dinners (even though this is a good excuse not to cook, just not the fancy stuff, pizza is fine) and flowers. Last year was the first year I ever received a bouquet of flowers and I didn’t even know that he went and ordered them as my husband doesn’t keep secrets well, just because I said I never received flowers from him. I love his spontaneity and at the same time I hate it because he never gives me enough time to prepare for anything.
The best thing about Valentine’s day is that it makes us remember all of the reasons why we love the person we are with. What brought us together, how we’ve changed and what has happened in the last year to make you appreciate that person more or less (and work on it). Love will find a way to make any relationship work, if it isn’t there then maybe it’s not meant to be. Love never fails.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-8 New International Version (NIV)
“Love doesn’t make the world go ’round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” ― Franklin P. Jones
Happy Valentine’s Day! xxxx
Just a Dash 