What Negativity?!


I am not living for anyone but myself and immediate family. With that said, what is negativity? I refuse to acknowledge whatever it is. Amazing that nothing needs to be said to experience it either! It’s like this: you gain weight and it’s on the tip of everyone’s tongue, whether in person or under your photos. You lose weight and… wait, NO ONE says anything?? They can’t say wow you lost weight, looking good keep it up? Why are you my friend? Why do I still acknowledge you as a friend? I’m not flaunting anything. Only thing I’m flaunting is the fact that I found something that works for me and I’m just putting it out there for you to try in case it may work for you too (as not everything works for others as they do for one person). I know, I know, it’s human nature. So isn’t it sad that with human nature we put down others when they’re low and when they rise we try to find every way to keep them down any other way possible?

I’ve been reading a thread on a Facebook group about why Rihanna didn’t shoot the video in her homeland. I’m not going to even start to repeat anything about the negativity that flowed from that thread. What I loved about the video is that she highlighted something that many young women experience when they go to a party even if it wasn’t on this level. I’m pretty sure that as Caribbean people we have a very sexual way of “getting down” on the dance floor and yet some males can’t understand that what is done on the dance floor doesn’t need to be continued off of the dance floor. I’m sure this same experience has happened to many women and Rihanna’s simply highlighting that it can happen to anyone and she would like young girls to learn from it. Why then must so many people bring down where it was done, highlight the “violence” in it and claim that she is not looking out for her younger audience? I know not everyone is on twitter so I’ll show you what she tweeted: 

I am a proud Barbadian and Rihanna fan. And it hurts sometimes how we are so quick to put down our own without looking at the message they’re trying to send or giving the support that is due. Rihanna has put down any negative comments that come her way from whoever – Barbadians, fans, media – and she continues to strive. To her I  say what negativity? People will always be judgmental (I am as well I won’t pretend I’m not) but come on, give Jack his jacket and when someone does a good job, pat them on the back and say “well done”. After all, you’re only giving me an excuse to continue to strive and watch that green monster grow inside of you.

Enjoy the video and understand the message. 

Peace, love and positive vibes

xxx

June bug


Can you believe June is around the corner?!?! WOW! Well, so far for the month of May gym has been down a bit but my diet has been steady and my husband joined :). Our friends (a couple who got married the same year as us) moved back here from living in NY for almost 2 years and I’ve been having lunch dates with her (and eating healthy meals while doing so :D) and it’s been a very wonderful time. If I could get our other friends move back here from England as well I think this would be one of the best years of my life!! I’m definitely looking forward to summer. I think there’ll be lots going on even though we don’t have any set plans and that’s when the most fun occurs – sheer randomness! We’re going to Bruno Mars concert this week and I CAN’T WAIT!!! Anyway I’ve got some stuff to share :).

I just got home from church and I was going through my bookmarks and clicked on Livvi Franc’s blog and the post I read just touched me tremendously. I’ve been feeling really happy recently and like something excellent is on the horizon. I feel at peace. I feel more in love with my husband than ever before and life is just GOOD. Sometimes I worry about being able to find a job but at the same time it’s like there’s a reason I’m not allowed to work and it’ll be shown to me soon and I’ll understand and appreciate – more than ever – everything God has given me and done for me. PLEASE read this:  http://livvifrancblog.com/2011/05/21/progress/ 

On another note. The main message in the Homily today was when you help someone, don’t do it just to help them in their current state, set an example that they will want to help others and your work will not be done just to help one but many. Could there be anything stronger than this? They joy that would overflow in your heart when you realize a person you’ve helped has seen your effort and wants to help others in the same way is probably unimaginable. So often we set out to help others only thinking that we just want to see them get on the right path, but we never expect to get a return like them helping someone else in the way you helped them. Flattery doesn’t just come in the form of “Thank you”, but when they look up to you and appreciate everything you’ve done for them it truly comes in the imitation of your work. So this month, make an example of yourself when you’re trying to help others. No one’s a saint. I sure ain’t! But I know what a cry for help looks like and I can say that the only way to answer properly is to humble yourself and accept whatever pains you may suffer to help another along the way. 

Hope you’re having a wonderful Memorial Day weekend and remember and pray for the souls of all who have passed in war.

Love 

Mone xxx

 

*Sssslurp*


I don’t remember if I mentioned this before (and frankly I’m too lazy right now to check back) but I noticed a change in my bite and I did not have braces for years to just let it go to waste, so I had my parents send up my retainers from years ago in preparation for a visit to the orthodontist- and new retainers were needed. Today I got my new retainers. I’m not too pleased. I was hoping to just have the bottom one (and it’s what I expected to be getting) but no. I got both a new top and bottom. The top is like Invisalign where it’s a clear material covering the entire top row of teeth that collects saliva and has me slurping constantly, and the bottom is a regular retainer with a wire through it. My husband is constantly laughing at me, it’s like we 13 all over again. At least this time I have contacts and don’t have to wear glasses lol. So I’m on my way to having that brilliant smile once again.

I feel like I’m on some diet and it’s driving me crazy. I snack quite a bit throughout the day but having to take out everything and put it back in after eating is making me want to eat less… and I baked brownies yesterday – again, I’m not too pleased about this and I can’t feast on the brownies too often. I guess this is to say that a nice smile and *small* waist will come together?? I sure hope so if that’s the case.

Memorial Day weekend is drawing closer and as I closely eye the sales, I am also watching the weather that isn’t supposed to be so nice and bright. But for all of you in the US please be careful and enjoy and have a very safe weekend. To my Bajans, have a wonderful weekend and enjoy this Crop Over season for me as well. 🙂

Lots of love and liquid sunshine

xoxo