Just a Dash

I must apologize for my lack of writing but I’ve been waiting on some stuff and this may be a pretty long post :). August is finally here which means Summer has officially started for me :). I love August for all that goes on during this month and because it’s my nephew’s birth month! Which is a good reason for me to spoil him. In this post I’ll just highlight everything that’s going on  and I hope you guys enjoy!

I’ve just read the book The Help by Kathryn Stockett in less than 3 days. It was a VERY good book. I wanted to read it before the movie comes out on August 10th and  I couldn’t put it down. It delayed a few meals as I didn’t want to put it down and do anything. I’ve got a Chelsea Handler book there to read but I wasn’t too drawn into it after the 1st page but who knows how that’ll go. Yes I LOVE to read books! My husband says I’m weird because of it and he considers blogs to be his equivalent… So if you have any suggestions of books for me to read, shoot them in the Comments section below please! I should insert here that I downloaded the Kindle app (which is free) on the iPad and read The Help on that; I was kind of anti-ereaders but it was nice :). Here is the link to it on Amazon.com http://www.amazon.com/The-Help-ebook/dp/B002YKOXB6/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1312407353&sr=8-4

Now.. on to food!

Muffins!! I think I’ve spoken about these so often and never posted pics for you to see them. I have posted the recipe (which I’ll post again) before on this blog and on my first blog but I know it can’t hurt, you can skip it if you’ve seen it before :D. I often do these for breakfast or just a snack and I substitute white flour for whole wheat flour as that’s all I use at home. I’m planning to  bake an apple crumble very soon and I’ll make sure I take pics to show you that as well.

Applesauce Muffins

Ingredients:

2 cups flour
¾ cup sugar
2 tsp. baking powder
1 tsp cinnamon
¼ tsp sat
1 egg
1 cup applesauce
½ cup (1 stick) butter

Directions (shortened):

Preheat oven to 375 degrees and mix dry ingredients together then add the rest. Spoon into a 12 slot cupcake/muffin pan. Bake for 18 – 20 minutes.

Next topic is my hair. As I told you before this is the shortest cut I’ve EVER had and I’m just loving it! My hair naturally grows really fast and I just can’t keep up with it even now.  I’ve got 3 pics to give you a rough idea: one is the cut when it was first done (without highlights) then the other is just to show the highlights and then the side view. I’ll add another pic later when I use my camera and fix up my hair better since I haven’t really done much with it since I got the highlights. What you think? Like it? 🙂

Over the weekend I purchased a Groupon for services at a spa. Groupon was giving me $20 towards my first Groupon purchase and I said why not, it was the only thing I was actually interested in buying at the time and the $20 covered the cost of this deal. For $20 I get $40 worth of services at this place. I want to get shellac on my nails again as they’re getting pretty long and I want something done before they break so we’ll see.

My brain is a bit more frazzled than usual today. I had more I wanted to talk about but I can’t remember ANYTHING!!! Bad memory sucks. I’ll try to keep writing more this month even though I’ll be having visitors soon. Pics, pics and more pics to come!

Happy August! 🙂 xx

Sometimes, to put out your best work, you have to just put everything on the line and hope that the true message is received. Most of my ideas for “deep” blogs come about from conversations with friends. I do not put anyone’s business out there and I won’t just for your reading pleasure. It’s what came to me during these conversations that sparks my fingers to do more talking on it. I try to focus more on my personal experiences anyway so you know I’m not just talking out of my butt on stuff. After all I’m not qualified or anything.

I’ll put today’s topic as Girls ~ getting past those heffers. (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=heffer) just in case..

I’ve always been very guarded with my female friends. ALL women have issues. So, no I was not one to hang out with the boys more, I’d say I was more loner if I didn’t have my girlfriends to hang with. There is no nice way to put it, women can be jealous, mean and the most compassionate person within 3 seconds. But sometimes we never know how to deal with them, even as women! Things we may not have a problem with, someone else does, and we can’t figure out why the hell they get on our tails about an issue even if it has nothing to do with them. “Why is she being such a b***ch about it?” we often wonder… I don’t have the answer and I never will. 

I’m a guarded person naturally so I don’t share much about myself with others unless I feel like they’re (trust)worthy of knowing about me in depth. I’d have to say it’s the catty behaviour that has prompted me to do this more as I got older. Even when you’re young girls can be quite mean, and only the wise see it for the blind just tag along and are happy to call the mean girls their BFFs. I may have been seen as a mean girl but I don’t stand for crap or entertain certain behaviours so it may have been mistaken for me being a b***ch and I didn’t mind because I knew within, I didn’t have to deal with crap as long as other people did.

The thing about females is this, once you’ve realised that this person isn’t doing anything positive for you, you have to just move on without them. Some females believe it is their job to bring misery to your life, and yes, sometimes it may hurt and get to you, but is there anything better than rising above it to show them that they’re merely dust on your shoulders? If they hurt you, cry once and never again. You had time to grieve and they don’t deserve more than that.

Cut all ties. Yes in the back of our heads we may be thinking she may go psycho on me and spill everything or attack me or turn people against me. But on the bright side, if you have true friends and these things do take place, when it’s over, you know who was truly your friend and who wasn’t. Maybe you’d want to distance yourself slowly if you’re truly scared but once you’re clear cut all ties. I think this is so hard because you remember the fun times you had and how she was almost or practically on the bff level, and it scares us to think they will be out of our lives. But sometimes we have to do what’s best for ourselves if we want to move forward positively and devote our time and effort to those who have our true interests at heart. The time for school girl antics is over, as adults (even if others don’t want to behave as adults) we need to accept change and move froward accordingly.

Men will never understand women especially when women don’t understand women. Even when you’ve found a  girlfriend who matches your personality, she will still have some characteristic that you dislike, but as a true friend you either call her out on it and hope that she works on it or just accept that as her personality and continue to draw on the good qualities/characteristics that she has, that drew you to her in the first place. Even females are drawn to other females because you see something in them that you see in yourself.

Since I moved to the US, I can say that I have lost a few female friends that I considered to be good friends and not just acquaintances. It is during moments like these (moving on in life) where you realise  who was truly your friend and who wasn’t. I know who my friends are because we’re over 3000 miles away from each other and every time we speak we just continue from the last conversation. Others… if a conversation even occurs, it’s as painful as an underarm wax.

I often bring up the term “reason, season or lifetime” and for me, it was a case of finally accepting that that friendship wasn’t meant to be and moving on. I tried to salvage some but it wasn’t worth it, but to accept that their season or reason was up, and it was time for me to move on and put that effort into another potential lifetime friendship. If some friendships are meant to be “rekindled” then it will happen naturally.

xx