I’m aging…

If someone told you 5 years ago this is how your life is going to be, then asked you how are you going to handle it? Would your response be the same after those 5 years have passed? I’m happy to know and learn and grow and say I have more balls than I ever thought I would.

Maturity, when you look at it, is really about changing your response/reaction to situations as they happen the older you get. If you still act the same then obviously you have more growing to do. Bing has the following definitions if you don’t like mine:


acting or seeming like adult: showing the mental, emotional, or physical characteristics associated with a fully developed adult person

experienced: showing qualities gained by development and experience

I’m in awe at my behaviour sometimes. Internally I’m a volcano but people don’t always see it because my head takes over my heart and what comes out surprises even me sometimes. Being able to be at peace and handle situations as they come is something I’ve grown to love about myself. If necessary I will still be a hot head but I am not rude. In my head I am! But it doesn’t come out.

Getting older, life gives you situations like this:

“Everyone is getting their Xbox, but your parent was late and you have to wait for the next shipment in a couple of months… you just sit and watch everyone get excited about theirs and play with it but and you can’t and won’t join them until you get yours.”

You’re 10 year old self will obviously throw a tantrum and sulk until the Xbox comes, but what would your 20 year old self do? If you’d still sulk, you’re an idiot. You should be out there finding ways to get one or hone your skills on a friends until you get yours. If you linger on it, my friend… you are a bitter person and you need to stop that now.

Life will always throw pissed filled snowballs at you. Get over it. Someone is always going through something worse. Count your blessings and work towards getting what you want (legally) with positive energy. The fact that you’re reading this says a lot. Someone would love a computer/phone/tablet/some electronic thing to be more “connected”.

There is nothing worse than looking back on a situation and saying you could’ve handled it differently and even worse is someone being stuck with the image of how poorly you responded to something. No Sir! We don’t want that! We want people to say that is a person who has their head on and is moving in the right direction and they want to be on your train to wherever you are going in life.

Wondering where I get these things from? LIFE! Ohhhh I could write a book… I like to think I’m an open book because I’ve realised how much I’ve grown even though I can’t share every single detail, I can, however, share how I’ve felt after the situation has passed and what I’ve learnt from it. I gave that analogy above to my husband today and he totally got it so I decided to write a post and share it. Everyone can relate to be a kid. If you can’t relate to having to wait for things, try doing it sometime and see what almost everyone goes through. And don’t take what you have for granted. Whether it’s a house, a partner, kids, a stove, shoes… someone out there would love to have it and not feel the stress of not having it.

Be thankful.


Being Content

It’s amazing how much your perspective changes as you get older. It’s amazing that as you mature, your perspective changes. When you get married, it’s no longer about you anymore, you have a partner to consider. If you took the career route, working late means more to you than a night out with friends. Your priorities change in ways you never thought possible.

But the roots of life aren’t based on material assets. Setting goals and achieving them can be seen through material things but in the end, what matters is looking back at how far you’ve come and being content with where you are going.

To be content, you shouldn’t envy others. Please don’t. See what others have, be happy for them but work towards your own successes. Some people have things handed to them and they don’t understand how hard someone else is working to achieve that same thing. What may take weeks or months for some may take years for others. Negativity does not enhance your character. It also makes everything around you sour and stifles progress.

So the next time you see someone and you want their life or something they have, use it as inspiration to be a go-getter and do better for yourself. Set goals and know that nothing happens overnight. Leave envy at the door. You don’t know what they went through to get where they are and if it’s well known that it was handed to them, then that makes it even better for you personally to know you worked hard to get to the same level.

None of us are perfect, but we can use our imperfections to bring out the best in us.

Because you love the quotes I post, here are two, as usual, taken from Real Simple:





My own worst enemy

At the beginning of the year, we set a goal – at least one vacation for ourselves. No one that we know is allowed to be there and we will explore somewhere new together. For the last two years, we set this goal but it hasn’t happened. Mainly due to the fact that we are in that season of our lives where friends are getting married and most all of them are out of state/country. We have two weddings coming up in the Caribbean and that means I would like to go out and get as much sun as I could which equals bikini wearing.

My mid-section has always been my trouble area. It also doesn’t help that I have a short torso. So I have about 6 weeks or so before these trips begin so I’ve taken it upon myself to start Pilates. The real reason behind Pilates is that I have very tight muscles and after trying one private session, I realised it would be more beneficial to me than Yoga. I am now registered for unlimited monthly mat classes and I intend to do this with my personal training to get as close to my “dream body” as possible while getting a stretch that I hate doing on my own.

I really like it. Or I really like how the people at Nancy Wallace Pilates have made me feel while doing it lol. I think their attitude has made me definitely want to return and inspired me to keep it up. They’ve been great in pushing me past my limits without making me feel like I’m really out of shape. I want to walk taller and sit better and “scoop my tummy in a little more”. I will be going the day after my personal training to help stretch out any soreness that may be brewing.

Coupled with a few dietary changes (no alcohol, no fried foods and a reduction in “white foods”) I’m hoping to be more than bikini ready when I leave for vacation. I’ll be sure to pack as many body-conscious skirts and dresses as I can without any help(spanx) lol.

I’m my own worse enemy.

Only I can criticize myself more than you can.

It’s up to me to do something about the way I look and feel as no one else can do it for me.

So enough complaining. I’m putting my foot down.

While working on my sweet tooth.

I can do this. I’ll get my fat ass to work. I’m bringing my sexy back ;).

I’ll try to do the cupcake shop once a week… Twice max!

Shit… those meringues look good.

This will be hard. But I will do it. I have to.