If someone told you 5 years ago this is how your life is going to be, then asked you how are you going to handle it? Would your response be the same after those 5 years have passed? I’m happy to know and learn and grow and say I have more balls than I ever thought I would.
Maturity, when you look at it, is really about changing your response/reaction to situations as they happen the older you get. If you still act the same then obviously you have more growing to do. Bing has the following definitions if you don’t like mine:
Mature:
acting or seeming like adult: showing the mental, emotional, or physical characteristics associated with a fully developed adult person
experienced: showing qualities gained by development and experience
I’m in awe at my behaviour sometimes. Internally I’m a volcano but people don’t always see it because my head takes over my heart and what comes out surprises even me sometimes. Being able to be at peace and handle situations as they come is something I’ve grown to love about myself. If necessary I will still be a hot head but I am not rude. In my head I am! But it doesn’t come out.
Getting older, life gives you situations like this:
“Everyone is getting their Xbox, but your parent was late and you have to wait for the next shipment in a couple of months… you just sit and watch everyone get excited about theirs and play with it but and you can’t and won’t join them until you get yours.”
You’re 10 year old self will obviously throw a tantrum and sulk until the Xbox comes, but what would your 20 year old self do? If you’d still sulk, you’re an idiot. You should be out there finding ways to get one or hone your skills on a friends until you get yours. If you linger on it, my friend… you are a bitter person and you need to stop that now.
Life will always throw pissed filled snowballs at you. Get over it. Someone is always going through something worse. Count your blessings and work towards getting what you want (legally) with positive energy. The fact that you’re reading this says a lot. Someone would love a computer/phone/tablet/some electronic thing to be more “connected”.
There is nothing worse than looking back on a situation and saying you could’ve handled it differently and even worse is someone being stuck with the image of how poorly you responded to something. No Sir! We don’t want that! We want people to say that is a person who has their head on and is moving in the right direction and they want to be on your train to wherever you are going in life.
Wondering where I get these things from? LIFE! Ohhhh I could write a book… I like to think I’m an open book because I’ve realised how much I’ve grown even though I can’t share every single detail, I can, however, share how I’ve felt after the situation has passed and what I’ve learnt from it. I gave that analogy above to my husband today and he totally got it so I decided to write a post and share it. Everyone can relate to be a kid. If you can’t relate to having to wait for things, try doing it sometime and see what almost everyone goes through. And don’t take what you have for granted. Whether it’s a house, a partner, kids, a stove, shoes… someone out there would love to have it and not feel the stress of not having it.
Be thankful.
xx
Baby time !!!
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Love this! I am definitely going to share. As much as what you say is true, it is hard to stop feeling sorry for yourself but good things come to those who wait.
Thank you for sharing! I’ve learnt that feeling sorry for yourself doesn’t get you anywhere. I give myself a day and that’s it.